And invited to repair mother-daughter relationships


“The people from you will rebuild the ancient ruins; You will increase the foundations of your age; And you will be called as the repairer of the breach, the repairer of the streets where you live. ”

These words which fill the promise in the second part of the book of the Old Testament Isaiah, where the prophet was great in restoring and promising the blessings to Israel through his Messiah.

The words of Isaiah, especially chapters 40-66, are a great encouragement to me through the years, mainly because its message focuses on themes that are at the heart of my heart: forgiveness, reform and redemption.

“You will be given the breach as a repairer.”

The words of the truth describe the heart of a brand new book, which I was privileged to review recently: “Mended: Hearts of Mothers and Daughters Reform,” by literary agent Blythe Daniel and her mother Dr.. Helen McIntosh.

I was given a friend by a mutual friend when I started searching for my next project. When I saw the job on social media about her forthcoming book, it was immediately drawn to me.

I am very selective when taking part in the launch of new books or moving pictures, but I must admit: This project has taken my heart. There is a good reason for that. My mother and I are witnesses of the reconstituted power of forgiveness and grace. We worked together to be the “repairers of the breach” that had existed for us for many years, and we can say with certainty that the help of the mother-daughter with God is cured and restored.

Maybe a female relationship is not more complicated with the bond between the mother and the daughter. Over the years I have met many daughters who have a relationship with their mothers for a variety of reasons, and mothers who have always injured their daughters with destructive words and selfish actions. In each case, chasm grows between them at the same rate as the hole in their hearts. I am still to meet a happy, peaceful woman, who lives continuously with her mother or daughter. When this relationship is suffering, there is usually anger, incapacity and emotional damage that extends to other relationships, which often affect women's vagina in dramatic ways. It's true. I know it is too good.

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The message is “Mended” raw, riveting … and overdue. With honest honesty, McIntosh shares her struggles as a child of an abusive mother and how forgiveness and self-awareness allowed her to break the cycle for the next generation:

“You and those around you are toxic, as well as the one (s) you don't forgive,” writes McIntosh. “The poison goes deep and wide and affects future generations if you do not care in your heart. In these very difficult times with my mother, I remember knowing that I needed to forgive – whether she ever asked my forgiveness or not. ”

McIntosh had the kind of construction that could justify an unfamiliar relationship with her daughter Blythe. But she chose the road less travel and shows the results. As the best-selling author New-Times Times writes Stasi Eldredge in the book's introduction: “(…) if I want to learn about the relationship between mother and daughter – the possibilities of medicine, goodness and holiness and the close relationship can be recovered – I go to Blythe Daniel and Helen McIntosh. ”

I agree. “Mended” is not a psychological textbook. It is a practical guide, filled with ideas about how to initiate the reform process. It gives mothers and daughters hope to have difficult relationships that can cure these relationships, and the knowledge of how to initiate this medicine.

From a daughter whose relationship with her mother was filled with blood and pain once, with my readers who could have been “gripped” by them: There is hope, joy and incredible peace when you take it with him the gap that separates the one you from the most important women in your life. My prayer this is Mother's Day, if you are on both sides of the chasm, you will have the courage, humility and strength to take the first step towards that bridge. Certainly life is much better on the other side.

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Patricia Holbrook is a columnist, author, blogger and international speaker. Visit their website For talks and verbal comments, please email