Danity member Kane Aubrey O’Day had a lot to say about Diddy and the retaliation for his reality series “Making The Band”. Now, in an interview with Variety, O’Day reflects on his time on the show and on the behavior he has had since Diddy who believes he “wouldn’t do it at all” these days.
O’Day and Diddy’s relationship escalated throughout the series and eventually ended with Diddy removing her and her bandmate Wanita D. Woods from the group in 2008. The remaining members Dawn Richard, Aundrea Fimbres and Shannon Bex continued before dissolving in 2014.
“Diddy is a father, so I hope he has learned things about how you manage women and that he now has more compassion for women,” he said. But in the past, he says it wasn’t too nice to work with.
“Puff is a very difficult person to work with,” said O’Day. “Everything had to be perfect. I remember the times when he looked at my toenails and I said “What is your third nail doing? Go fix that shit before entering a room.” Or we would be rehearsing by doing a set of an hour and a half more and several times, and he would come in for five minutes with a camera and say, “Aubrey, why are you sweating? You look like a wet dog. You are the hot one, so you think someone wants to see him?”
He continued, “We were scared to death about what would happen with Puff every day. There was no room for mistakes. Diddy was one of the most intense people you could ever work with. I experienced everything from the race [remarks] to sexism, and it was largely frightening. I have a very strong mom who was not necessarily a nurse, and I remember that once I touched my knee as a child and while bleeding everywhere, she said: “Suck it, Aubrey!” I would experience “Making the Band”. “
He also discussed the internal division that was put on girls as they progressed in the music business. “As we got older, there was a lot of division in the group because men wanted to categorize women – the cute one, the singing one,” he explained. “But the beauty wanted to become a singer and the singer wanted to be known as pretty, so you start not appreciating the people around you because of the boxes that men want to put you in. And there were always cameras around, so there we are used to not talking openly to each other because we never wanted to make this show a battleground for tantrums. We wanted to represent women in a positive way. “
Despite the struggles of the show, O’Day said that experience has taught her not to depend on anyone, but is excited about her return. “I have so much joy at any opportunity for young and talented artists to have opportunities because it is difficult nowadays with the record labels going below and independent music is so fast and furious,” he said. “The music industry has changed completely, so I’m glad they’re finally bringing the franchise back.”
O’Day also revealed that he had participated in field meetings with MTV, for a concept of the show, which involved all five members of Danity Kane, to put together a new group of girls on television.
He said: “I really think you need women to create a female band because women understand each other differently than men. When you have men who deal with women’s groups, they don’t know how to treat the emotional sides – and the emotional sides are usually what divides the groups of girls. We would be on tour with the Pussycat Dolls and they hated each other. They would all be in different vans, he didn’t like the main girl, [one member] he was making friends with the boss. “