CLARKSVILLE, Tenn. – Imagine not only love your life to reach a bar to use the next day, and then see that person again months later. For Bret and Susan Fenske, one night of "instant chemistry" went into two children, daily love letters and 30 years married.
On her 18th birthday, Susan ran from her troubled East Tennessee house and moved to Fort Bragg, North Carolina, to live with her sister. She started dancing at a club to earn money, and one night she met a man of her dreams.
"It was an immediate chemistry," she said.
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In 1990, Bret, Army Ranger, was based in Fort Bragg and was enjoying a night out in the town before being deployed.
"I went to bar one evening and saw Susan and I fell in love immediately," Bret said. "We talked for a while, and I stayed with her after she retired and she met her in the car park. We swapped a kiss, and the next day I was being deployed to Panama."
While Bret was deployed, he wrote Susan's love letters every day, but never received a letter back. He discovered that they had been pumped in the military post office, without ever making their way to Susan.
Bret said that he had written so many letters to allow Susan that he had never been interested, even though they had only spent one hour together. The letters mainly related to incidents and Bret wanted to explore with Susan when he returned.
After two months, Bret returned to Fort Bragg and went to the same bar that Susan worked, hoping to find, but closed the bar. "I thought I wouldn't see her again because we had no exchange numbers."
Bret and his friends decided to go to another bar that night. When parking their car, another car pulled them up.
Bret said that he remembers her name when she saw her face. "It was like a sketch from a film."
30 years later, love is still going
After Fort Bragg, Bret went back to Cleveland, where he grew up, but he said he was not going without Susan on his side.
"I brought her home back to me, and history has never been since," Bret said.
One year after their transfer, Nick had a son, 29, now, and married. Five years later, their daughter, Julia, was born 24 years old now.
Fenskes said that they are proud of raising two children in an environment surrounded by love. "It gives me great pleasure that my dad has a great dad and that she saw it …" Susan said, and Bret finished her sentence: "… and a son could see how deal with a woman, be faithful and care for her. ”
They agreed that being married is one of their greatest achievements because they have never thought of separation or divorce.
In October, the Fenskes will celebrate its 30th anniversary. They moved to Clarksville two years ago, and Bret works at the Google data center.
"There are times when we could be upset, but I wake up, and I have written notes telling me I'm sorry," Susan said.
Booklets full of daily love notes
In closet at their town Clarksville there is a notebook stack full of love letters in the last few years. Every night, Susan leaves Bret's note before bed, and wakens up to one before leaving the next morning.
Susan's secret is to quit others. "The good times and the bad times, you have to be there for them both," she said. The Fenskes go on weekly dates, and take several trips a year to keep things going.
Bret said that communication, honesty and being immersed in your partner are crucial.
He describes Susan as a free spirit, and said that he loves his spontaneity and passion for life.
"He never kept me back, and he encourages all silly, crazy thinking," Susan said.
In their own home, there is a sign that reads, "Do not live so busy that you forgot to make life."
Susan said they are a motto where they live.
"So many people are busy with their careers and raising children … they forgot that you work and do so many other things, that you will be like empty nests – and that your kids are Life, if you blink it is gone, so do not be so busy and you forget to make life. "
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