There are often invitations to play in the new school year, sometimes between families who don't know each other.
However, parents do not always agree with such an invitation, with almost half in a new national poll saying they refused your entitlement because they did not feel comfortable leaving their child in the care of the other parent.
Among the main concerns of parents about playdates are unsupervised children, hearing inappropriate language, entering medications and harmful substances, and getting injury, according to the National Vote of the CS Children's Hospital. Mott on Child Health at the University of Michigan.
Despite such concerns, only one in four parents have been made aware of safety issues by another parent before the date of settlement.
Play games allow children to develop independence, experience interaction with other children in an unstructured setting, and have fun with a friend. Before parents send their child to the play class, they must be confident that their child will be safe and properly supervised.
It often means that children are asked to be safe and supervised during practice to ask important safety questions to the host parents. However, our poll suggests that many parents are not proactive in making these conversations. "
Sarah Clark, Mott Poll Coordinator
The report is based on responses from 881 parents with at least one child aged 4-9. In response to an unwelcome invitation in a family home that they do not know well, 22% of parents would allow the child to take the action without them and 43% would remain with their child. A further 22% say the playdate invitation would not be accepted.
Effects on parental decisions about playdates include the baby shy around strangers (17%), fear of certain pets (11%), food allergy / special diet (8%), or health condition (6%).
The majority of parents say that they would try to meet the other parents before the timetable. Some would try to learn about the other parents by asking friends and neighbors, checking social media, going to another family's neighborhood, searching for sex offenders / searching criminal records, or asking a teacher or school staff. other.
“Many parents seem to be cautious about putting their child into play in a new friend's house, especially if they are not familiar with the family hosting the fun room,” says Clark. "There are a few steps they can take prematurely, including meeting with the family and talking to them, who could help them decide how to respond to a play date invitation."
However, there are other factors that parents should consider in terms of circumstances, such as supervision, risks associated with activities such as trampolines and pools and whether the host family has medications or harmful guns – and if so, whether they are locked and safely stored away from the children.
However, it seems that not many parents are asking these questions, Clark says, which may be worrying about the host family's reaction. However, three-quarters of parents in this poll said they would not be affected if another parent asked about playdate safety.
Clark points out that parents have a plan for pre-drafted conversation to overcome concerns.
"It may be helpful to develop a checklist to guide the conversation," says Clark. This could include asking questions about supervision, storage of weapons and medication and family rules on potentially hazardous activities such as trampoline use.
“Parents should also communicate in advance if their child is afraid of certain types of pet or has allergies. Together, parents can send their child to the child's play and determine the host family strategies to help children be safe and comfortable. "
Michigan Medicine – University of Michigan
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