Thursday, 13 Dec 2018

Santa can not answer a child's wish list this year. Does that make his parent the Grinch?

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hello Carolyn: My son is 7 years old and still believes in Santa, that Santa makes toys in his workshop. He asked Santa for a hoverboard, an iPhone and a $ 200 robot. I just can not afford these things, and anyway, he would not have a phone at his age. He is going to receive many other gifts from Santa Claus, me and his loved ones, but I am already sorry to think of his disappointment on Christmas morning when he sees that he is not happy. did not get what he had requested. Is there a way to handle that without ruining Santa's fantasy?

– not Santa

Not Santa: It seems to me that Santa's fantasy has ruined Santa's fantasy and so it's hard to find a good reason to pursue it.

It's too late to change this year, but you can anticipate Santa's disappointments next year by starting the de-Santafication process right now. Be a little less gifted for the maintenance of the facade and use the same paper wrapping and the same writing for your "Santa Claus" gifts and on your part. Letting him fend for himself is much better than what would actually be a "JK! We have pulled your chain for years.

You can appease the grudges that this epiphany can engender by treating him like he was in the act: remind him that not everyone is as tall as he is (see?), And so he needs to watch what he says around "little" kids.

(Nick Galifianakis / For the Washington Post)

This is Santa's biggest chess: Instilling the myth, for example, lying, is easy and fun, but few people advise you to think about the end of the match first.

As for this year, you have several options: explain that Santa does what he can, and that it is not always what we want (so much truth about it); or be creative or group your purchasing power with relatives to buy an item from your wish list (signed with real names); or tell Santa that you have heard that he can not bring them and that he would like something else?

But I say all this knowing that this fantastic vacation has its disappointment, at least until we're old enough to not need everything to be perfect – and your son is years away.

He asked for real things, yes, but that could just as easily have been a unicorn on his wish list. It is not possible to fix it, except that Santa Claus is the agent of the no, and this finally happens for all children. With the exception maybe of children whose demands are reasonable (maybe they are unicorns?) Or whose extravagant wishes are all satisfied – and it's even worse for them in the long run than the kick from Santa to shin.

Re: Santa Claus: One of my friends once told me that any expensive item was a gift from parents and that some less expensive items were gifts from Santa Claus. They did it because their children had less fortunate friends, and it's hard to explain to an 8-year-old child why Santa gave him only one character, but he did gave an Xbox to the child on the street. In addition, they thought it was best to show their children that they should not expect expensive gifts from a mythical gifts giver to deep pockets, while keeping Santa's magic alive.

– friend

Friend: Great idea, thank you.

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