The Rise of the ‘Ex-cation’: Why Breaking Up Doesn’t Always Mean Cancelling the Trip
The travel industry is witnessing a curious trend: couples who have recently split are choosing to continue with their pre-booked vacations… together. What was once considered an awkward scenario is becoming increasingly common, with a new survey indicating over half of those who experience a breakup would still embark on a trip with their former partner if the split was amicable. This phenomenon, dubbed the “ex-cation,” is prompting travel companies to rethink their approach to customer service and relationship dynamics.
From Romance to Friendship: A Norwegian Influencer’s Story
Dennis Poppe Thorsen, a Norwegian influencer, recently shared his experience of vacationing with his ex-girlfriend in Thailand shortly after announcing their separation. Posting a photo from Bangkok, he playfully described them as “2 ex’s enjoying Bangkok,” and later told ABC Nyheter it was “the best vacation” he’d ever had. Their story isn’t isolated. The couple had booked the trip nearly a year in advance, and decided to proceed as friends, turning a potentially disastrous situation into a positive experience.
Why Travel with an Ex? The Psychology Behind the Trend
Several factors contribute to this trend. Financial commitments play a significant role; cancelling a pre-paid trip can be costly. However, the emotional investment is often just as strong. As Thorsen explained, they had spent weeks discussing the trip and anticipating the fun they would have. Dropping out would have meant losing not only the money but also the shared excitement. For couples who remain on good terms, the vacation can serve as a respectful closure, a final shared experience before moving on.
Generational Differences in ‘Ex-cation’ Acceptance
The willingness to travel with an ex varies significantly by age. A recent study reveals that 62% of Generation Z would proceed with the trip as planned, compared to 45% of those over 45. This suggests younger generations are more comfortable navigating post-relationship dynamics and prioritizing experiences over traditional expectations. The study, conducted by Appinio on behalf of TUI Musement, included data from the UK, Spain, and Italy, highlighting the trend’s international reach.
The Role of Travel Companies
Travel companies are taking notice. Anne Mørk-Løwengreen, communications manager at TUI Norway, notes that the survey demonstrates how important vacations are to people, even after a breakup. This suggests a need for greater flexibility and understanding when dealing with customers experiencing relationship changes. While not directly offering “ex-cation” packages, companies are likely to adapt their services to accommodate this growing demand, potentially offering separate rooming options or tailored itineraries.
Beyond the ‘Ex-cation’: Early Travel as a Relationship Test
The trend extends beyond post-breakup travel. The survey also revealed that many couples are eager to travel together very early in their relationships. Over 35% are ready for a vacation after just one month of dating, with 10% even venturing away after only a week. This highlights the increasing role of travel as a “test” of compatibility and a way to accelerate bonding.
Potential Pitfalls: What Can Go Wrong?
While many “ex-cations” are successful, potential for conflict remains. The survey identified common irritations on vacation, including arguing, control issues, poor time management, and disagreements over finances. Men tend to be more bothered by overpacking and excessive screen time, while women are more likely to be annoyed by a partner prioritizing partying.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Is it a good idea to travel with an ex? It depends on the circumstances. If the breakup was amicable and you can both maintain respectful boundaries, it can be a positive experience.
- What should I do if I start arguing with my ex on vacation? Try to address the issue calmly and respectfully. If the conflict escalates, consider spending some time apart.
- Are travel companies offering packages for ex-couples? Not currently, but they are becoming more aware of the trend and may adapt their services in the future.
- What are the biggest irritations couples face on vacation? Common complaints include arguing, control issues, and disagreements over finances.
Pro Tip: Before embarking on an “ex-cation,” have an open and honest conversation about expectations and boundaries. Agree on how you will handle potential conflicts and ensure you both have some independent time.
Did you know? Over 70% of travelers share vacation expenses equally or through a joint budget.
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