The Quiet Bloom of Men’s Groups: Why Flower Arranging Might Be the New Pub
A recent gathering in Garstang, Lancashire, highlighted a surprising trend: men finding solace and connection through flower arranging. While seemingly unconventional, this event, as reported by local news, speaks to a larger shift in how men are addressing emotional wellbeing and seeking community. It’s a trend born from necessity, filling a void left by the decline of traditional male spaces.
The Vanishing Pub and the Rise of Alternative Spaces
For generations, the pub served as a cornerstone of male social life – a place to unwind, share burdens, and build camaraderie. However, pub closures are accelerating. According to the British Beer & Pub Association, over 400 pubs closed their doors in 2023 alone. This isn’t just about losing a pint; it’s about losing a vital social outlet. As Dobson, one of the organizers of the Garstang group, pointed out, these spaces historically provided a safe haven for men to “vent.”
This decline has created a vacuum, and men are actively seeking alternatives. We’re seeing a surge in men’s groups focused on everything from hiking and book clubs to, yes, flower arranging. These groups offer a similar sense of belonging and a non-judgmental environment for open conversation. The appeal, as David Chambers noted, is often the anonymity – it can be easier to open up to strangers.
Beyond the Stigma: Men and Emotional Wellbeing
Traditionally, societal expectations have discouraged men from openly discussing their feelings. This has contributed to higher rates of suicide and mental health issues among men. Statistics from the Office for National Statistics show that suicide remains the biggest killer of men under 50 in the UK. Breaking down these stigmas is crucial, and these new groups are playing a vital role.
The choice of flower arranging is particularly interesting. It challenges traditional notions of masculinity, offering a creative and tactile outlet for emotional expression. Gemma Kelsall, the florist hosting the event, observed the “overwhelming” turnout, suggesting a genuine desire for these types of experiences. The hope that participants will continue the practice at home, sharing it with their families, further underscores the potential for positive ripple effects.
The Business of Belonging: Collaboration and Community
The Garstang example also highlights a growing trend of businesses collaborating to foster community wellbeing. Bluebells and Daisies, the florist, partnered with other local organizations to create this space. This collaborative approach is becoming increasingly common, as businesses recognize the value of social responsibility and the potential to attract customers through meaningful experiences.
Declan Stephen’s comment – “Something like this is missing in Garstang” – is echoed in communities across the country. There’s a demonstrable demand for these types of initiatives, and businesses that can tap into this need are likely to thrive.
Did you know? Studies show that engaging in creative activities, like flower arranging, can reduce stress and improve mood. This is due to the release of dopamine, a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and reward.
Future Trends: What’s Next for Men’s Wellbeing?
We can expect to see several key trends emerge in the coming years:
- Increased Specialization: Groups will become more niche, catering to specific interests and demographics (e.g., men’s hiking groups for veterans, book clubs focused on male authors).
- Digital Integration: Online platforms will play a larger role, offering virtual support groups and connecting men across geographical boundaries. The Men’s Health Forum is a great resource for online support.
- Corporate Wellbeing Programs: Companies will increasingly invest in programs designed to support the mental health of their male employees.
- Expansion of Creative Outlets: Expect to see more men embracing traditionally “feminine” hobbies, such as cooking, pottery, and dance.
Pro Tip: If you’re looking to start a men’s group in your community, focus on creating a welcoming and inclusive environment. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different activities and formats to find what resonates with your target audience.
FAQ
Q: Are these groups a replacement for professional therapy?
A: No. These groups are designed to provide peer support and a sense of community, not professional mental health treatment.
Q: Why are men choosing activities like flower arranging?
A: It challenges traditional gender roles and offers a creative, tactile outlet for emotional expression.
Q: How can I find a men’s group near me?
A: Search online for “men’s groups [your location]” or check with local community centers and charities.
Q: Is this trend limited to the UK?
A: No, similar trends are emerging in countries around the world, as men increasingly prioritize their emotional wellbeing.
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