According to Norwegian celebrity stylist Jan Thomas and his husband Harlem Alexander, the couple is actively reconsidering their stance on starting a family following a recent wedding and a family encounter, as reported by Se og Hør. The pair, who married in a secret ceremony at the Oslo City Hall followed by a celebration in Spain, addressed the prospect of parenthood during an episode of the podcast «Jan Thomas og Einar blir venner».
How a Family Gathering Sparked New Thoughts on Parenthood
However, dynamics shifted following a visit with Harlem’s brother and their newborn son, Caspian. According to Se og Hør, holding the infant gave Harlem an open revelation about the possibility of raising children.
“I’ve been in on the thought that children are not for me, or for us really, just because it’s such a big responsibility,” Harlem stated, according to Se og Hør. Following the encounter in Halden, both men acknowledged a shift in perspective, with Harlem confirming his desire to have children despite their previously independent lifestyle.
Navigating Age Gaps and Realities in Long-Term Planning
The decision to pursue a family involves navigating practical hurdles, notably a 20-year age gap between the spouses. Jan Thomas, who is approaching 60, emphasized the need for self-awareness and open communication given their different life stages. “I’ve been a bit silly and said that if I ever in a weak moment should suggest children, find a knife and stab me in the eye,” Jan Thomas told Se og Hør, before highlighting the necessity of discussing what his younger husband truly wants out of the future.
Additional considerations include career shifts for Harlem, who is exploring a new direction in the workforce. Despite logistical questions surrounding timing, gender preference, and parenting styles, the couple agrees they would make strong parents should they choose to move forward.
The Financial and Legal Realities of Surrogacy for Same-Sex Couples
Because surrogacy is illegal in Norway, the path to a biological child requires looking abroad. According to Se og Hør, Jan Thomas pointed to the United States, Colombia, Mexico, and Canada as potential options, noting that the U.S. is frequently recommended as the most streamlined process.
Did you know? Surrogacy is classified into traditional surrogati (where the surrogate is the biological mother) and gestasjonell surrogati (where the surrogate carries a fertilized egg from another woman). While banned in Norway, establishing legal parenthood for children born via surrogacy abroad is permitted.
The financial commitment is substantial. The couple estimates that a surrogacy process could cost around three million Norwegian kroner, with costs potentially doubling if they delay the process. “That I think comes as a shock to those who listen,” Jan Thomas said, as reported by Se og Hør.
Frequently Asked Questions
Are Jan Thomas and Harlem Alexander currently expecting a child?
No. According to Se og Hør, the couple is only discussing the possibility of expanding their family and has several other personal and professional dreams they wish to realize first.
Is surrogacy legal in Norway?
No, surrogacy is prohibited within Norway, though establishing parenthood for children born via international surrogacy is legal.
What are the estimated costs of international surrogacy for the couple?
According to Se og Hør, the process is estimated to cost around three million kroner, potentially rising to six million kroner depending on when they decide to start.
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