The demands of sole caregiving are immense, requiring constant vigilance and sacrifice, as highlighted by the experiences of one individual featured in the “Left To Care” series. Nonis is among four people followed as they navigate the challenges of caring for ailing loved ones independently, confronting personal struggles alongside their caregiving responsibilities.
CARE, WITHOUT PAUSE
Since 2022, Nonis’ father has experienced multiple hospitalizations due to a fall, a heart attack, and recurring gastritis. Her mother, who was discharged from the Institute of Mental Health in 1998, continues to require monitoring for her schizophrenia, with the potential for relapse.
“There’s no such thing as taking a break from caregiving. I’m literally on duty 24/7,” Nonis stated. She even monitors her home via closed-circuit television while at work, constantly watching for potential issues. “As a caregiver, you never know when a crisis will strike.”
Despite the difficulties, Nonis expresses a deep, though complicated, love for her mother. “Who better to look after her than me? She only has us,” she said, adding, “Clearly, I love her. … But it’s highly hard to admit.”
As household sizes shrink and only children become more common in Singapore, more adults may find themselves in similar caregiving situations, navigating challenging relationships while providing essential support.
Frequently Asked Questions
What series follows these caregivers?
The experiences of these caregivers are being documented in the “On The Red Dot” series, “Left To Care.”
What health issues is Nonis’ father facing?
Nonis’ father has been hospitalized since 2022 for a fall, a heart attack, and recurring gastritis.
How long has Nonis been providing care?
Nonis states she is “literally on duty 24/7,” indicating a continuous and demanding caregiving role.
How might evolving family structures in Singapore impact the prevalence of sole caregiving situations?
