According to Püvi, awareness of intimate partner violence has certainly improved in recent years. “There has been an increase in the number of women who, when they come to me, are already quite familiar with the patterns of violence that a man uses, and also see the wounds of their so-called limits of tolerance.
Püvi confirms that the sooner a woman turns around, the sooner she can receive support. Based on his decades of practical experience, the therapist can say that a woman’s mental preparation is one of the main things that helps to radically change the situation. “When victims come to me, they may be in a very different stage of domestic violence,” Püvi continues. “They are often on the verge of changing their life patterns and are extremely insecure, scared, out of touch with their true self, traumatised. There are many first and unknown things happening. It is possible that the police, the protection of minors and the power of attorney. Other times, everything begins to prove necessary.”
If you feel in danger, your life or your children’s life is in danger, call the police immediately on the emergency number 112.
• 24-hour victim assistance toll-free number 116 006 (calling from abroad +372 614 7393)
• The Social Insurance Council’s 24-hour child care service 116 111
• Free 24-hour helpline for women who have suffered violence 1492
• 24-hour reception in the accommodation unit and initial crisis counseling: MTÜ Tallinna Naiste Kriisikodu, telephone 526 4697, www.naisteabi.ee, e-mail [email protected]
• Tallinn Women’s Support Center of the Union of Estonian Women’s Shelters, phone 575 70911, www.naisteliin.ee, email [email protected]
• Mother and Baby Centre, telephone 5347 9001 (24 hours)
• Psychological crisis help in Tallinn, telephone 631 4300, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday 12–19; Mon, Fri 3pm–7pm
• The free nonviolence helpline 660 6077 can be called by those who have renounced violence, their relatives and professionals who come into contact with perpetrators of violence. Calls are answered on weekdays from 10:00 to 16:00, assistance is provided in Estonian, Russian and English. When contacting you you can remain anonymous, but if an emergency situation arises during the call, the consultant will forward the information to 112.
• Social Security Council telephone number 116 123 for emotional support and pastoral care (emotional support counselors from 10am to midnight, pastoral counselors from 4pm to midnight)
• If it is not possible to call or you do not want to talk about your concerns on the phone, you can find help (including in text chat) on the website www.palunabi.ee.
• The website of the Child Care Agency of the Social Insurance Agency www.lasteabi.ee, where you can get advice, among other things, via text chat.
• Support for victims of sexual violence: www.sotsiaalkindlustusamet.ee/abivajav-laps-ja-taiskasvanu/abi-vagivalla-ohvrile/seksuaalvagivalla-ohvrite-kriisiabi
• Online mental health counseling is a free service provided by the Social Insurance Council for people whose daily lives and livelihoods are disrupted or whose lives are experiencing tension and difficulty. Reservations: www.palunabi.ee/vaimne-tervis
2023-12-24 14:00:00
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